We laughed. We cried. And we undoubtedly discovered.
At our February No person Cares Speaker Occasion, visitor writer and psychologist Dr. Jody Carrington, PhD left us with a pocket book filled with knowledge—and possibly even just a few new views on life. From human connection and burnout to the Mufasa soundtrack (extra on that in a second) and neurobiology, the evening was full of insights that we simply can’t preserve to ourselves.
Jody was filled with one-liners, and each phrase felt like a revelation. Listed below are a few of our favourite moments from the evening. Get able to screenshot all of them.
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“Empathy is the antidote to burnout”
Jody repeated this one all through the night, and for good motive. In her expertise working with youngsters who’ve suffered trauma, she usually hears individuals ask, “What’s unsuitable with this one?” As an alternative, she challenges us to ask, “What occurred to this one?” That shift in perspective—main with empathy—can change all the pieces.
Burnout, she stated, isn’t nearly being overworked. It’s about being unseen. “You can not do good work if you don’t really feel acknowledged.” And acknowledgement? That begins with empathy.
That is the place Mufasa is available in. His consideration to Sarabi’s pursuits makes her really feel seen and finally wins her over. The soundtrack then, after all, needed to be mentioned. I cherished it, Erika didn’t.
“If the large persons are okay, the little persons are too”
Whether or not within the residence, the workplace, or the classroom, management issues. When these in cost can regulate massive feelings, the individuals they lead really feel safer, too.
Jody usually meets mother and father who’re frightened about their baby’s nervousness or melancholy. Her first step: Have the mother and father schedule an appointment for themselves. “Am I the issue?” they ask. And whereas Jody reassures them with a “Noooo,” she additionally nods. As a result of whereas they might be part of the issue, they’re additionally an enormous a part of the answer
“In the event that they’re not okay, the individuals they serve don’t stand an opportunity,” she stated.
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“The physique retains rating”
Your thoughts could attempt to persuade you that you simply’ve moved previous stress and trauma, however your physique tells the actual story. Jody reminds us that self-care (massages, meditation, journaling) received’t actually work in case your physique remains to be caught in fight-or-flight mode. Therapeutic isn’t nearly what you do; it’s about how your physique responds.
“You possibly can’t deal with what you don’t acknowledge”
When requested tips on how to create a greater office tradition, Jody didn’t hesitate: Begin with acknowledgment.
Earlier than you’ll be able to repair an issue, it’s a must to title it. She calls it the “Title it to tame it” strategy. When you determine what’s occurring, solely then are you able to begin creating actual change.
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“We’re all simply right here to stroll one another residence”
This one isn’t initially Jody’s—it belongs to religious instructor Ram Dass—so she broke it down and stated in her personal phrases that life isn’t meant to be navigated alone. We’re wired for connection, and no quantity of automation will ever substitute human relationships. We’d like one another. Even when we solely cross paths for a short while, we’re all right here to information, help, and elevate one another up.
“What you promote, you allow”
A easy however highly effective reminder: What we permit in our areas, at work, at residence, in our communities, units the tone for what continues. If we would like change, we have now to be intentional about what we encourage and what we problem.
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“You possibly can’t inform them, it’s a must to present them”
No quantity of phrases can persuade individuals of one thing they don’t see in motion. In management, tradition, connection, it’s not about what you say. It’s about what you do.
Which one among Jody’s insights resonated with you essentially the most? Let’s preserve the dialog going.
